LETTER TO MY FATHER 2003
Do you still sleep at night?
Your hair was white
until you were seven.
“You’ve got a baby sister,” said your mother.
The shrivelled dwarf span the wax of your hair into gold
overnight and you were old.
Who was that other,
shitting and puking in the Moses basket?
If you’ve got a question for me, ask it.
The questions that I’ve got for you
crowd me like the poems that I’ve lost
to fear, disgust, the horror and despair,
the frost
that you still comb from your hair
turned white again,
little boy lost:
the snow queen stuck your heart with a splinter of ice
and called it Paradise.
Do you still sleep at night?
Do you dream in black and white
or colour,
do you dream white nights in Copenhagen
or Elsinor
where Hamlet called Ophelia a whore?
Are you afraid, teacher of fear?
Do you still hear
in the dark crisis of the paralysed hours
a remote cry heralding your name,
my Grandmother,
and still imagine that you’re not to blame?
Do you still sleep at night?
I know you can’t any longer toss and turn,
rage and burn
as you used to do.
But do you have a soul?
Did you go to Hell
in 1972,
has a demon walked in your body for 31 years
shouting, “Don’t tell! Don’t tell!”
And there was other shouting, wasn’t there?
Did you like it, dragging her by the hair?
I don’t think you did.
I don’t think you wanted to.
I know you were bullied at school
but join the club,
I went to the toilet to gibber and blub
and I want to know why
you perpetuated a lie
by taking it out on us.
My mother should’ve taken a bus
to Dover
and left a note, saying, “The nightmare’s over.”
I can still here you screaming at her,
I always will: I can still see your face
twisted into a patient, repetetive hate:
“I see, streams of abuse.
Mend your temper, Know your place,”
you always said.
What’s the use?
Both your children are already dead
or rather rotting inwardly,
corrupted by your legacy of rage.
Neither of us will see old age
which must be a comfort to you:
our mother now has nothing to do
but pay attention
“Like a naughty schoolgirl”, watch for the blows
of a perverted small-town schoolmaster
taking detention,
a prefect with a roman nose.
She says she chose you as good breeding stock.
Decapitated, the little mermaid sits on the rock
and she didn’t leave so I don’t believe her either.
When they ask me who was good and who was bad, I always answer, “Neither”
or “I don’t know”
or “Why” or “Oh”
but I know you envied your children their lives.
You envied other men their wives
and we looked on
in screams of despair
as you dragged our mother by the hair
across the hall
towards the study door:
“Be quiet!” she shouted, “You’ll get taken into care.”
Half-dead, hysterical she lay
one day:
“That’s right, you two come and help!” you said
but we were both already dead,
the tears immobile on our faces
as in so many places
before and since.
“I am Hamlet the Prince!
Madman. I was two. My brother was nearly five.
We both pretend we’re still alive.
One year you ‘cancelled’ Christmas.
Our mother made shepherd’s pie.
We had to lie.
“Tell her it’s delicious. Tell her you want some more.
(“That’s all your getting,” she said as she slopped it onto the plate.)
Food for hate.
It was disgusting. It was 1974.
You ‘sacked’ your mother-in-law.
You ‘sack’ employees
but we were all (unpaid) employees,
weren’t we?
My Grandmother couldn’t see.
She was seventeen years
blind among strangers.
Sometimes I dream her sightless tears
are mine.
I see them shine
like revelation or the remotest things.
Sometimes I play with the rings
on her fingers entwined in mine.
She was flawed. We were all flawed apart from you my lord.
And all for what?
All for the attention that your mother
(the phrase ‘son of a bitch’ has a special meaning to me)
gave to another.
Envy like moss on a heart of stone.
You get on fine now that I’m gone, now you’re alone,
with no one to envy, no one to hate.
An old woman stirs the ashes in a grate
pointlessly: my mother, the woman that you’re going to kill
with work. Will you leave me her ashes in your will?